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It's the most wonderful time of the year! 

How can it not be when our takeaway coffee cups have turned festive red, when the air smells like pine and our towns streets have been rinsed with decorations and blinded by lights & is there anything warmer than the feeling you get when you walk into a store and the good old classic Christmas songs are on. You see, I'm never sad when Summer ends, because I know the seasons are about to start changing in such a visually pleasing way and there always seems to be something going on until after the New Year. I think each time I underestimate how much it overwhelms me, just how manic the festive months truly are; whether it's work, gift-shopping or simply trying to fill up your social calendar with as much festivities as possible, it all get's a little too much as we try to conclude our year the best we can. 

Without realising it, as the curtains close in December, consciously we're trying to round up our life in 2017 in the most unrealistic ways, rather than just easing into January with a hell of a hangover. We're trying to achieve the perfect ending, however your year has gone, there's such a want and need to go out with a bang, have everything done and dusted, so we have a perfectly clean slate for the New Year. It's a time when we want to completely re-fresh, finally let go of old wounds and grudges, opening up space in our lives and hearts for all that's better to come our way in the near future. I love this concept, I think it's a strong notion that we are inspired around this time of the year to makes changes and reflect on what's gone by in anticipation for the future, for the most part it's a healthy thing to practice, however at times I think it all becomes a little too obsessive; we completely overexert ourselves and end up gaining more stress regardless of how much we're trying to sort and let go of.

We try our best all year round and to then get so caught up in the whirlwind of this calendar year ending, literally as if we're about to attend it's funeral, we forget to take a breath and remember that however we end this year isn't going to determine how the next goes, of course there's nothing wrong with wanting to go in with smiles all around, work prepared and drama left behind - but all I'm saying is if everything goes tits up, you can still start again on January the 2nd or any damn day for the matter, even if you don't have anything extravagant going on over the festive eves, doesn't mean you'll never have a night like it soon, just on a different date is all.

In a perfect world, we'd all be kissing strangers at midnight or under the mistletoe, 

or have a rooftop party to attend, followed by a 2.a.m. night time walk where the snow candidly falls,  but you see there's no right or wrong way to draw the curtains closed and it really isn't the end of the world when the year ends.

with love, Kat

Coffee, my saviour on these foreboding overcast winter days, though I feel it only awakens me to a certain extent, but either way I truly look forward to a well made cuppa each morning, sipping it as I try to get my bearings for the day ahead. (Don't be fooled, it isn't a dreamy sight; no silk gowns, tweeting birds or graceful awakenings, just I in a worn fuchsia dressing gown, frizzy hair in a half-fallen bun and a puffed up face as I stumble downstairs).

It's been a heartbreaking year, to put it bluntly. It makes me so happy that people have still been able to have one of the best years of their life so far, due to personal achievements, whether that's in work or pleasure, because we all know the media has been full of tragedy, politics have been a load of hair pulling bullshit and too many people have been lost. It's been very easy to lose hope, to lose faith and feel alone in anything that we have been feeling, but we're getting through it, though we need to do better, that will always something that we will and should be doing. As long as there's hope & action, there's a chance & change.

With everything that's happened and continues to go on, never forget to check up on those closest to you, but also those who your gut tells you may need it. Sometimes it's easy to completely overcomplicate situations and overlook simplicities, we're all busy and perhaps so blindly comfortable with our friendships, that we assume it's the same both ends, we believe if something's wrong that that person will come to you, but we know that's not always the case.

It's never a waste of anyones time asking someone else if they're doing ok.

It could very well be all they need, to just admit what's wrong - to talk a little about whatever it is. The sheer action of someone even bothering to ask, could mean the absolute most to someone who desperately needs it and probably feels so utterly alone in what they feel and are struggling with.

There's so much out there that tries, even succeeds, to separate us, to cause drifts and battles, it's disheartening to hear and witness. So I think it's unquestionable to check in on others, to make someone laugh for even just 5 minutes, it's basic human love and decency. All we have is each other, the world can be such a buggering place, it costs you nothing to be kind.

with love, Kat

what i'm wearing

boohoo red wide sleeved jumper, gap flared jeans & jack wills cross body bag

I'm the kind of person that gets absolutely petrified trying new things, whether that be meeting a new person for the first time, hence why the prospect of dating ignites steaming anxiety, or having to do something I'm not used to like travelling to the city alas getting the hang of navigation, therein I cling to my comfort zone like a cup of coffee in the dark cold mornings. I'm in a funk as of now, a good one, the kind where things are looking up but you're just a little overwhelmed with the change that is perhaps approaching. There are a few things here and there that I know if I don't start doing and become complacent with, things then won't really move forward, they'll just stay the same
& I don't do 'the same old' very well. 

It's times like this where I look back on my own personal growth very intensely, for good reason of course, it's rewarding to see how far you've come when all you thought is that things were as good as they were ever going to get at that point. Though it's not always good to dwell on the past, in worry it might hold you back, sometimes it helps the perspective of current issues by taking a look back at what you achieved in similar situations. It's easy to dismiss doing something over the anticipation that it's most likely not going to work out in your favour, so it is therefore deemed as some sort of failure, that's pointless even bothering with. However I think no matter the outcome, if you still tried, if you got out of bed & showed up, that's a success in itself. Nothing needs to go and end perfectly each time for it to be deemed a notable success in some way.

Success isn't always the trophies, the final product or obvious end goal; it's also the strength it took you to start, the perseverance throughout. It's the confidence you gained and battles you faced. The lessons learned and skills practiced. Don't forget to applaud yourself for trying & being brave, no matter the outcome.

"even if you go for it and it doesn't work, you still win. you still had the guts enough to head straight into something that frightened you. that type of bravery will take you places."

- the better man project 

with love, Kat
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