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what i'm wearing

top is calvin klein, leopard print wrap skirt from new look, nasty girl trainers, todd bag and michael kors necklace.

I need to stop letting people assume I'm around at the drop of a text and be unapologetic for it. I've got a knack for saying no, but also saying yes. I know the more I let unnecessary guilt and presumptions lead the way of my decisions, that aren't always what at heart I'd like to them to be, the more others will walk all over me simply because most of the time I agree to things on, for the most part, their terms. Their time, their requirements and needs. It's most likely because I'm freelance, the underlying lack of respect of certain people have assuming because it's not a 9-5, that I'm then around whenever they are. Except I've allowed it. I always state, you pick the times, you chose, you let me know when, and so on, giving them full control, because "I can move my schedule around no problem", however I need a schedule, I should stick to it and have the respect for myself and career to do so. There's easy going, then there's too easy; it's not always that you then notice when you've given yourself too kindly to another that it's now expected and not hoped for, abused subtly at another's advantage. I suppose I just want to be around, I want and do make time, I don't want to miss out, but there's got to be a balance and there must be respect. Right?

with love, Kat

what i'm wearing

off shoulder mini dress from boohoo, michael kors rose gold disc necklace and todds beige handbag. 

There's nothing like home,
and nothing quite like the perfect fit.

It was like flying home directly to the sun, the temperatures didn't cool or allow much for breathing but I wasn't complaining. Some streets quiet, others, such as where the ice cream bar resides, were sprinkled with people craving something cool and sweet. Back home, nothing changes too drastically, character and tradition remains, it's something I adore about European countries in general, the history that stays for us to see and enjoy. What else I hope that'll stay, is this replica of numerous summer dress staples from high end brands. The LBD has always been a classic, something that'll stay in your wardrobe for hopefully a few years, throw in good cut and tailoring it becomes more than just a basic. 

I'm a simple girl, who still wants a whole lot out of life; the things that please me are long talks over coffee (or wine), out in the courtyard with my best friend, the changing seasons, cooking with my boyfriend and so on. I'm happy with less, I don't need too much, yet there's still a lot I plan on achieving, like living abroad, owing a business or two (ambitious, I know), building a property, learning some more and still forever travelling. Like the simple pieces in your wardrobe, there's a certain richness and warmth when you reach for them, it's easy, faultless and timeless, just like hot coffee and good conversation.

with love, Kat

It stemmed from a conversation with my best friend, has stuck with me ever since and I've found myself somewhat repetitively telling others the same;

you don't owe anybody anything. 

We can all shrug it off and say that we know, that we're not blind to our own self worth and rights, but there are so many little kinks in our day to day life that have become such normalities it's no surprise we wouldn't say hang on a minute... I don't owe that to you.

-what's expected of you-

A lot of us have people out there who have hopes and dreams for us, they're hopefully there along the sidelines spectating and supporting us, yet as things have progressed in society, it feels like there's mounting pressure, to please and succeed, then blindly forcing us to take undesired routes, all because we want to do it for them, like we owe them it. Again, we'd deny it, we're in control, we're doing it for us, all until someone asks the blunt question, why. Why are you doing it? Who for? My own, then realised, answers were all about acceptance or being done out of fear, however subtle. Even if it's not maliciously provoked, silently a lot of the time we're working ourselves into the ground over stresses that aren't all in our sole best interest but in those of others. Then there's the minor daily conveniences such as the divided opinion of replying to someone online, the constant need to be in touch and feeling guilty saying no or cancelling. No one is entitled to your time, nor should they use emotional blackmail to get some. For years I'd be weighed down by guilt if I was letting someone down, simply by cancelling or not being in touch instantly, but my mindset has switched when in fact I know I'm a good enough person, treating others right that they should respect that my time is my own, not theirs and I do not owe them it.

There is too much entitlement to go around, too much worrying of someone else's time and not our own; it can be exhausting keeping up with the demands of others, out of worry of disagreement and fallout. We do not owe it others to feel good, to be good, we do not owe our own time to anyone, it is our own, to which we use how we believe we should. Our time's our own.

with love, Kat
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